Among married couples, men are statistically more likely to cheat than women, although women can be culprits, too. If you think your partner might be part of that statistic, don’t assume the worst—yet.

Remember that trust is the foundation of every relationship. But if you notice some of these signs your partner is cheating, it can’t hurt to trust your instincts.

Signs Your Partner Is Cheating

Why do men cheat? Disloyalty can be caused by a variety of factors, including sexual fulfillment, emotional needs, and—ironically—a desire not to hurt one’s partner.

1. Secretive Behavior

One of the biggest signs of infidelity is when your partner begins hiding their technology usage from you.

This might look like changed passwords or deleted texts or browser history. While this isn’t an excuse to invade their privacy, you do need to pay attention if they start getting defensive over their devices.

2. Changing Sex Life

If your partner is having less sex with you, this might mean they’re having it with someone else.

Similarly, if your partner is having more sex with you, they could be trying to cover up an affair. And if the sex feels less intimate overall, that’s another sign that they could be detached from the relationship.

3. Unexplained Absences

If your partner suddenly starts working extra hours, this could be a sign that they’re cheating—especially if they are unreachable during those hours.

They might also start to be forgetful about birthdays, picking up the kids, or other important events.

4. Mutual Friends Seem Uncomfortable

If your partner is cheating, they’re probably not the only one who’s acting weird around you.

It’s no secret that the betrayed person in a relationship is usually the last to find out. If your friends start acting reticent or overly nice, chances are, they have something to hide.

5. Fishy Expenses

The average cheater spends nearly $450 for every month they’re having an affair. This contributes to dates, gifts, hotel rooms, and other miscellaneous expenses.

If you notice large sums of money disappearing from your partner’s bank, investment, or even retirement accounts, this could mean they’re cheating—especially if you don’t recognize the purchases.

6. Sudden Interest in Appearance

If your partner suddenly expresses an interest in self-improvement, like eating healthy and working out, they might be cheating.

Other physical red flags could be found in their wardrobe, personal hygiene—and in extreme cases—cosmetic procedures.

7. Different Attitude

If your partner suddenly seems emotionally distant or even hostile toward you, this might mean they’re cheating.

Maybe they don’t open up to you as much as they used to, or maybe they start projecting their own guilt onto you. Any of these could be a way for them to justify their decisionmaking.

What To Do

If you begin to notice signs your partner is cheating, don’t lose hope—41 percent of marriages survive infidelity.

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